Never get tired of LOVING

“Love is the most wonderful thing one can ever feel.” We often hear this and I know we all believe in this. But as we know, love is more than a feeling – it is an experience.

In my almost 25 years of existence in this world, I cannot say that I know everything about love. I always believe that I have a lot to learn. Love for me came a little early and from then on, a lot has changed about my perception about it. Before, I always believe that when you love someone, you must be willing to give everything that can make her/him happy. Now, I still believe in that but I've learned that while you’re willing to give everyhting to make someone you love happy, you should be happy too. Making someone happy can be tiring but if you can feel the joy of doing it, it will never make you feel tired. 

True love is not easy to handle. We all know this reality. There is no such thing as smooth sailing love from the beginning 'til the end. True love may start with a storm. It may also be smooth in the start then gets rocky in the middle. You are two different persons from different families and values. There is no way everything will just fit in a snap of a finger or a blink of an eye. Arguments will occur and that is just fine. All you have to do is talk, try to understand where one is coming from, and compromise. Learning how to deal with personal differences is never easy but it is always worth it.

Love always comes with pain. Do you remember giving up the one you love because she/he is in love with someone else. At first, of course, we fight. (We know that we will all fight for the one we love, right?) We thought that fighting for the one we love is the right thing to do but sometimes it's not. So I guess, the right thing to say is: It is alright to fight but know when to stop. 

Love is like two persons pulling a rubber band. Nobody gets hurt if the two are just pulling it in balance but if one lets go of the pull, the other one will get hurt. What’s worse is that, the harder you pull, the more you will get hurt. 

Pain may always be part of love but we must also remember that pain must serve its purpose. Have you heard about the pain your mother has to suffer just to make sure you will be brought in this world safe? Remember how God died on the cross to save us from our sins? As for me, I realized that maybe, I was hurt because we needed to be happy. Letting go means no one will be suffering in a relationship where one cannot reciprocate the love of the other.  This will always be the story of love – of unconditional love. We sometimes have to choose pain over comfort to protect our loved ones or to save them from more pain.

God never forgets who loves truly. I know He never did because I once failed, twice broken, and thrice stood up – all for love. All those times, I felt Him there. I know because I asked and He answered, not in my time but in His. I know He was and will always be here telling me not to give up, reminding me not to lose hope for love. 

As one of my favorite bible verses states, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Through pain, we learn. We may all fail in love but true love will never fail. Count how many times you have failed and suffered in love, double it, and that’s how strong your heart is. Imagine how strong your heart will be if more pain has been suffered by it. The stronger your heart is, the more love you can give. 

I just trusted love and of course, God. Now, I’m reaping the fruit of all the patience I've invested for love. That’s why I’m telling you: NEVER, EVER GET TIRED OF LOVING.


xoxo