It's over.

How hard or easy it is to say it's over? Is it like saying I LOVE YOU in which you have to be careful or you can just say it anytime you want? 

Saying "It's over" requires a lot of courage. It is not easy to say these words to the one you love or have loved because admit it or not, it will break your heart the moment you see them hurting. There's no easy way to say this. There's no even right word or timing for this. But why do we really have to say "IT'S OVER?"

I can't say that I know everything about this thing. I admit, I still have to learn more. All I have now are the lessons I've learned from my past relationships. 

There are different reasons why these words are being said. There are lots of reasons around, really. Some are true, some are not. But one thing is for sure, once you say those words, you've been hurt and you must face all the consequences of your decision. 

First stage will always be the hardest stage of all. It is easy to smile and laugh but being happy is another side of the story. You will have to fake smile and laughters just to hide the pain but at the end of the day, you know you're not okay. 

It is not easy to think that the person whom you are with for months or years will not be the same person whom you are used to be with but you have to accept everything. It will be hard but all you have to do is think that everything happens for a reason. Just be thankful that once in your life, you've met a person like him/her who will help you become a better person.

I am always saying, it is okay to cry when you're hurt. It is not a sin to cry nor be sad because we are just human. Crying means that we're still  alive. We have to let all the sadness in our heart come out to ease the pain and it is natural to all human being. It is part of the process. What's wrong is to nourish that sadness for a long time. You will lose the chance to see more beautiful things around you. You can be sad, you can cry, but learn when to stop and accept everything.

Acceptance is the key word. Whether breaking-up is your decision or not, always remember that you must accept it. You don't have to rush if you can't do it that fast but slowly, you have to. There are things that will change but if you accept even if you don't understand, everyhting will be easier. 

IT'S OVER. It doesn't mean that it is the end of everything. It just means that there are better things and people to come. He/she may be God's way to help you appreciate life more. As they say, you will not learn how to appreciate more if you didn't experienced how to lose something. God allowed you to lose him/her so that you will be more prepared and strong when the right one comes. 

IT'S OVER. It doesn't mean you cannot be friends but if it is better not to be each other's friend, accept it. Just don't forget to be thankful for all the lessons that you've learned from each other. Though you have to separate ways, be thankful that you once become happy with him/her. You may not be for each other but thank those times that you have known someone like him/her who once made you feel special and important.

IT'S OVER. It doesn't mean that you will stop loving. In fact, it must be your guide to know how to love more the next time. You deserve to be happy. You deserve all the love that the world can offer. Always be thankful to God for letting you know how to give and receive love. It is His gift to all of us.

And if you are in a relationship right now, cherish each day with your love. Trust and respect each other. Above all, pray to God to guide your relationship and let Him be the center of your relationship.

        xoxo